Bridezilla blogging

I'm sure you've heard of Bridezillas - the brides or brides-to-be who go from sweet to completely nuts in just a few seconds.

We've all heard the stories and seen the pictures of these women who maul their in-laws and cause thousands of dollars worth of damage after ruining cars, homes or reception sites. Now there are even tests online where you can check if you have turned into Bridezilla.

I don't need to take a test, however - I already know I have.

Friends at work already call me Bridezilla. Mostly, it's because I go off on the littlest things when it comes to my wedding. What I hate the most is when people tell me "well, if you are going to do this, then you must also to that."

"I don't have to do anything," I tell them. "It is my wedding. I know what I want, and that's how it's going to be!"

What I want to say is "It might not be traditional, but just deal with it!"

Then, of course, there was the caterer who huffed and puffed over the fact that even dared suggest food could be served from the kitchen. Oh, and we won't be having matching plates for everyone. How could I possibly work? I mean, how will people know where to put their food if they have a blue plate instead of a green???

I probably should have hinted more towards the fact that everyone of our friends and family can cook really well, so perhaps we really don't need a caterer?

Sometimes, the helpful suggestions from others are the worst.
"There's a great hairdresser down at the center of town. They only charge $23 for a haircut, so you might want to make an appointment there the morning of the wedding."
"To do what?"
"You know, have them style your hair."
"Style how?"
"Blow dry it nicely and stuff."
"You don't think I can blow dry by own hair???"
Geez.

So I took the Bridezilla test a few minutes ago: "Your results: Low-Maintenance Bride. You're a very easygoing bride who knows what getting married is really all about. Give yourself a pat on the back for being so down to earth!"

So there, I guess it's not that bad after all.

Bride Wars

There's a new movie out in theaters here called "Bride Wars." I haven't seen it yet, but in the previews they show two girls (Kate Hudson and Anne Hathaway) who are best friends planning their weddings together. They both dream of getting married at The Plaza, and lo and behold, it's available for three dates very close to each other.

Then something goes wrong.

All of a sudden, the brides-to-be find out their weddings have been scheduled for the SAME DAY. Oh, the horror!

"Well, one of us will just have to change the date," the first bride says.
"Or one of us could change the venue," the other says.

But both want the date, and both want The Plaza. So they start fighting. Kate Hudson's hair is "mistakenly" colored blue; Anne Hathaway's dress is covered with red glittery hearts. And it goes on and on.

While I'm pretty sure I'll end up seing the movie when it comes to DVD, the preview only left me with one thought: What is their problem?

I mean, why does everything have to be the princess-fairytale-it's-all-about-me wedding? Is that really what makes people happy? If they were really best friends, wouldn't it be great to be able to share the day?

When I was a little girl, my best friend and I planned to get married on the same day so we could have a double wedding. It was our dream.

Double weddings are fairly common in Sweden, especially among siblings or best friends. And why not? All the friends and family are already there, so what's a few more guests? You split the cost of the band and the meal, and you have one big party.

If you get the location you want, and the date you want, and your husband-to-be shows up, what is the big deal? I frankly don't see it. Perhaps the movie will give me a clue. I'll have to post an update in six months when the DVD has been released.